Being an inherent soul from the city, I have tried my best to fit within the confines of Charleston, Mount Pleasant, or West Ashley, South Carolina within the last few months. The eponymous named Mount Pleasant, is indeed pleasant. However if you are an urban dweller most of your life, pleasant is defined by other matters.
Those other matters may not include, children, school activities, football games or soccer on the weekends. Couples with children assume that if you do not have a brood of children that perhaps you are not part of the "norm." This thought is more than likely a brief flash in their minds, as opposed to true contemplation. These couples assume the worst, they question and ponder, why one would not want to have children. Therein lies the problem; it is not particularly about not wanting to have children, it is just that some of us city dwellers were confronted with matters of love and marriage later in life.
I am not condoning the Sex & The City, post dweller here, but that is the truth. Maybe it was the dearth of men in those environs that posed the problem. Hell, maybe we were sucked into the post feminist attitude that women too, could behave badly like men and pretend that we didn't want a meaningful relationship. Then when we thought all was well, well; it really wasn't. It was too late.
Was this behavior learned I ask myself? Was it a product of post feminism? A cultural shift? An after thought, while we were pursuing our careers to stay afloat? On the proverbial back burner?
Life deals us harsh realities sometimes. How do we deal with those harsh realities? I find myself amidst school children, babies, young mothers, families everywhere here, how do I fit in? And will I ever fit in? And do I really want to?
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